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Alzheimer’s Disease: The value of humor
by Jackie K. Cooper

Recently I spoke to a group of people who really touched my heart. They were caregivers for Alzheimer patients. That means they were family members or hired persons who tended to Alzheimer patients. In most instances they were family members. The topic of the evening was titled "Health, Hope and Humor." The speakers were a doctor, a psychiatrist and me.

The doctor spoke about health; the psychiatrist spoke about hope; and I spoke about humor.

Now some of you could quickly point out there is nothing at all funny about Alzheimer's Disease and I would be the first to agree with you. But I will also tell you I feel strongly that Alzheimer caregivers have to have a sense of humor and a sense of the ridiculous or they are not going to be of any value to the patient.

When my father died a few years ago he was thought to be in the early stages of Alzheimer's. He had some memory problems and he told the same stories over and over and over. We could ignore the same stories being told, but we couldn't do anything to help him remember things. Except laugh with him.

That is what my stepmother did. He would try to remember something and she would pretend to not remember either. And then they would both laugh over their inability to remember. Eventually my stepmother would pretend to remember, and then they would laugh some more. It helped my father stay out of depression and it also let him keep some of his dignity.

The information handed out by the Alzheimer's Association states some "don'ts." They are (1) Don't reason, (2) Don't argue, (3) Don't confront, (4) Don't remind them they forget, (5) Don't question recent memory, and (6) Don't take it personally.

These are some good things to remember. One of the most important is not to take things personally. If you are working with a person who is suffering from Alzheimer's, don't think you can personally change their status. Dedication is one thing, but taking their state of being personally is another. If you do take it personally, then you are liable to end up being angry with the person for where they are in their illness -- and that is definitely the wrong attitude.

Seeing a person fade away before your eyes is one of the most heartbreaking things you will ever have to endure. That is why it is so important to share laughter and humor with them. It is one of the few things you can share, and in the case of my father it was one of the last emotions to go.

People would ask me how I could stand to watch my father go downhill, so to speak. My answer was always the same. I would tell them that as long as he could tell me he loved me then I was ahead of the game.

The last time I saw him, the last thing he said to me was that he loved me. Then we hugged each other and laughed.


Jackie K. Cooper was born in South Carolina and now lives in Georgia. He is the married father of two sons and the proud grandparent of a boy and a girl.

He is familiar to people living in the middle Georgia area as the "entertainment man" since his entertainment reviews run in newspapers and are shown on television there. His short stories have also been used as commentary on Georgia Public Radio.

Cooper has lived an exceptionally interesting life. Portions of it were contained in his first book JOURNEY OF A GENTLE SOUTHERN MAN. Now the journey continues in his second book titled CHANCES AND CHOICES.

Write Jackie Cooper at this e-mail address
and be sure to visit his excellent web site: jackiekcooper.com.

~Read more of Jackie's stories at USADEEPSOUTH~
Jackie White
Online Dating
Finding Your Face
In Praise of Red-Headed Girls
Fear Itself
Men and Their Automobiles
It's All About Me!
Moments of Memories
The Customer is Always Wrong
Never Too Old To Hurt


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